Location: Santa Ana, California, United States

Virginia Bola operated a rehabilitation company for 20 years, developing innovative job search techniques for disabled workers, while serving as a Vocational Expert in Administrative, Civil and Workers' Compensation Courts. She is a licensed clinical psychologist with deep interests in Social Psychology and politics and an admitted diet fanatic. She has performed therapeutic services for more than 20 years and has studied the effects of cultural forces and employment on the individual. The author of two interactive workbooks, The Wolf at the Door: An Unemployment Survival Manual and Diet With An Attitude: A Weight Loss Workbook, she also publishes a monthly ezine, The Worker's Edge and various weight loss mini-courses. She can be reached at,, or

Friday, April 08, 2005

It's All In The Attitude

Yes, I admit it.

I have an attitude.

Have you ever wondered where the negative connotations of that phrase came from? In itself, it's not inherently positive or negative, reflecting only a response to the world around us. It can be optimistic or pessimistic, trusting or suspicious, caring or malicious, empathetic or indifferent - any given individuals may be polar opposites in the manner in which they relate to their environment.

Have you thought about your own attitudes, about everyone and everything? Sometimes we just need to take a little time to sit down and become aware of ourselves and how we deal with life.

I tend to be pretty optimistic about life generally and too trusting of people (it scares my cynical husband to death). Yes, it's disappointing when people let me down but what is the other option - expect little from others and never have the satisfaction of inspiring them to do their best?

Yes, there are con artists and manipulative, destructive individuals out there but what happens to me if I let that warp my entire global view and turn my world into the treacherous swamp in which those people choose to live? It becomes a private "Patriot Act" that allows fear and vulnerability to intrude into the personal decency of the vast majority of people.

No, thanks. I'll keep my optimism and faith in people intact. If that causes emotional pain, victimization, or even death, at least I have lived in a world colored with sunlight, generosity, and vibrant hope. That, for me, beats a long barren existence on an ice-cold planet of ominous darkness.


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